Why is it difficult at times to move forward in a direction that you know is the right thing to do for your personal happiness and health? What are you afraid of – failure or success? It’s odd to think that one would be afraid to succeed. But, by succeeding you own that success. You appear successful in your glow, your attitude, your adventure, whatever the journey.

For example, if you’re looking to move towards a vegetarian or vegan lifestyle, it may seem daunting. It’ll take work and it’ll separate you from others – from the norm. If you succeed you’ll be seen as different. REMEMBER: Different isn’t bad or good, it’s just different.

Sometimes we fear the labels that may be placed upon us by others when we do succeed. Standing out, however for the greater good is good. We forget, or are too busy to notice, that when labels are placed upon us – judgment is placed upon us – it has everything to do with the person placing the label – placing the judgment – not the person being labeled or judged. If you choose to make a change in your life that “is the right thing to do” – it doesn’t matter what others will think of you – you’re doing the right thing. The others have the choice if they want to continue to interact with you in that same capacity or make a change themselves. Too often we accept the label or the judgment of others because of our own limited confidence. We question our approach, our idea, and our beliefs.

Another example is a supervisor limiting and/or controlling an employee. An employee may be “doing the right thing” but the supervisor isn’t recognizing it, is threatened by it, or is trying to control the situation rather than letting the employee flourish and grow. If you’re doing what you believe is the “right thing to do” and it’s a struggle to do it in your current environment – should you stay in that environment? You can’t change others – you can only do what’s right for you. What others do with that information or action is totally up to them. You have enough on your plate – you don’t need to take on the responsibility of everyone else in addition to your own.

You can, however, visualize the best outcome for yourself and others who may see themselves impacted by your choices. Going to battle with others, debating your position, only fuels the fire. Take a peaceful approach, listen if you are receiving feedback, and then politely say “thank you for sharing.” End of story. Defending your position diminishes your success and puts fear and doubt into your mind. When your body is screaming “this is the right thing to do” for you – continue to move forward. This may mean in another role or place. Thank others for sharing their opinion, give them a smile, and visualize the best for them. Visualize others being open and accepting of your position – your success. Be a role model and they too may take their life to the next level in “doing what’s right for them.” Their fear and doubt is what is causing them to be uncomfortable, develop a label, and place judgment. Be the positive role model and encourage them through this modeling to be happy. Be you – be successful – be happy. You deserve to live your life per your definition. You are loved.

What makes you happy? Where are you most successful? What’s more important – what’s right for you or what’s right for every other person on the planet? How will you move forward by “doing the right thing”?

~ in peace, happiness, and wellth…Namaste

Jennifer D. Culver, CPC ss a Certified Professional Coach with Jentle Wellness LLC, is a spiritual and intuitive business woman. She empowers individuals to become who they aspire to be – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Her credentials also include titles as a Speaker and Workshop Creator/Facilitator, a Reiki Master, a Seva Stress Relief Acupressure Practitioner, a Writer, a Business Consultant, and Holistic Professional. To learn more about gaining support and to test drive a sample, contact Jennifer at http://www.jentleworld.com and jennifer@jentlewellness.com.